Ask Emily: Don’t be part of mistake
By Susan Pugh on Aug. 27, 2008
Dear Emily: I was friendly with a girl at work named “Phoebe,” who recently was fired from her job due to cutbacks. She called me at my home the other day and asked for my help with something. Apparently, she “borrowed” a laptop from work, without permission, and wants me to return it for her so she doesn’t get in trouble. She said no one will notice if I return the computer, but it would be suspicious if she came back to drop it off. I don’t feel comfortable about this and was wondering if I should help her or not.
- Partner in crime
Dear Partner in crime: There is a reason why you don’t feel comfortable with helping Phoebe; it’s because your subconscious is trying to warn you not to make a stupid mistake! Phoebe stole or, depending how you look at it, she didn’t follow correct company procedure. What do you think will happen if you return the laptop and someone starts asking you questions about how you obtained it in the first place? Do you think Phoebe will come to work and vouch that it her “mistake,” not yours? Doubtful. Tell Phoebe that you don’t feel comfortable taking the laptop to work and let her be responsible for her own lack of judgment.
Dear Emily: Money is tight in my family right now, and I have two children about to go back to school. Got any good tips on how to save on those back to school costs?
- Stretching the budget
Dear Stretching the budget: Look for sales. Whether shopping for clothes or book bags, every store has some kind of special going on, so take advantage of them. Also, “shop” around your house. You probably have a junk drawer somewhere filled with pencils and pens that you don’t use, so let your kids use them. Another idea is if you can wait a little bit, shop in late-September when stores cut prices even more to get rid of their merchandise. And remember to plan ahead. Add a “school expense” category to your budget so you can contribute a little bit towards it year-round and not feel such a burden when September comes.
Dear Emily: I have been dating my girlfriend, “Maureen,” for almost a year now, and I need to buy her the perfect anniversary gift. I am as clueless as a guy can be when it comes to these things, so I thought you could give me some suggestions. She isn’t into material things: clothes, jewelry or things like that. So what can I buy her?
- At a loss
Dear At a loss: Don’t be fooled about Maureen’s aversion to material things; all women (that’s right-all women) appreciate an indulgence once in a while. Nothing says, “Happy Anniversary,” like flowers and jewelry. And if your girlfriend isn’t into showy jewelry, you can still get her something small, but meaningful. Perhaps something that reminds you of her. Also consider taking her someplace she might enjoy, like to a play or concert. A nice dinner would be thoughtful as well. Think of things that are useful, too, like a book or download some of her favorite music to her iPod. Sentimental gifts are great, too, maybe something that reminds you of your first date.
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